Reality can be much more difficult than what you see on Instagram
Ruth is a gorgeous 25-year-old-beauty blogger.
She has a loving husband and an adorable baby girl, who fills her heart to its rims.
Despite the perfect family photo, however, Ruth went through a heartbreaking emotional journey to accept her body after giving birth to her baby.
Throughout her pregnancy, Ruth had high hopes that she will bounce back quickly to her old body – just like the Barbie-like Instagram stars who pose with their newborn while exposing a chiseled six pack, as if they didn’t just push an entire human out of their body
After all, she was young, healthy, active, made sure to consistently spread all of the anti-stretch mark creams in existence and go to prenatal classes.
In reality, she had to have a C-section and was left with a scar from the surgery as well as big, prominent stretch marks across her belly.
However, while she went through an emotional breakdown over the insecurity with the new body, she took care to remind herself of the beautiful gift she received in return – and revealed the very personal photo of her postpartum belly to comfort other women who are going through a similar breakdown.
I’m posting this tonight with tears in my eyes. I can’t help it. The pregnancy and birth of my little girl was the most amazing thing I’ve ever been a part of. Some people don’t want kids, and I respect that. Really, I do. But for me, You see, I always have. When it finally happened though, it was so hard to fully comprehend. Pregnancy and babies, I mean that’s common. It’s everywhere. But when it’s YOUR body and YOUR baby, it’s so different. You literally feel like it’s a miracle. Because, when it happens to you, it is. What brings me to Instagram tonight, is the post-baby. I followed SO many pregnant models during my pregnancy. And when they photographed themselves pool-side 5 minutes postpartum, I thought, “wow! I hope that happens to me!” I was 25 when I gave birth. I was healthy. I was young. I stayed active during my pregnancy. I took the best prenatals, went to the gym, used every kind of stretch mark prevention you could think of. I took hours of birthing classes, read every book under the sun, and studied natural childbirth my whole pregnancy. I STILL ended up with a traumatic labor, cesarean section, scars, stretch marks, and unfortunately the inability to breastfeed long term. I took this picture a few days after I gave birth, when my PPD really first reared its head into my life. I took this and actually was horrified. I couldn’t believe it was me. I’m sharing it because I know in my heart that there are people out there that struggle with inadequacy. That might think they are not beautiful, that they might be ruined, less worthy, or not good enough. Yours might not actually be physical scars, but maybe, a failed relationship, a difficulty in your career, a mental struggle, money issues, or just feeling lost in life. Be kind to yourself. And know that you are not alone. Comparison is the thief of joy. Don’t let social media taint your view of what is beautiful, what is REAL. And above all, know that if you are struggling, I am here. I have an open inbox or (if you actually know me) an open door. #stopcensoringmotherhood #nofilter
It’s important to remember, that no woman is alone in this struggle.
With Instagram’s rising stars we often forget that “bouncing back” is just not realistic for most women – yet most don’t share the dark side of childbirth – and we don’t see enough of the women, the majority of women, who are left with the very, very common stretch marks and bloat.
So ladies, take a look at Ruth’s bravery and ask yourself if you are really any less beautiful for going through such a natural, beautiful process.
Be grateful for the gift you received.